Sunday, May 02, 2010

Adult Attachment

I went to the counselor and he told me that i should get a pet, a puppy, or work with little children because I have a tendency to place my worth in the love of a relationship.

I wasn't pissed, but very dissatisfied with his response. I don't think getting a puppy would be the end all- be all for this. So i recently came across an article explaining about how to realize you are enmeshed in relationships: So I have been studying the fact that my emotional needs as a child were not met and therefore, I don't have secure attachment when it comes to intimate relationships.

So, I think I actually hit the range of enmeshed attachment and dismissive attachment. I will be researching more on the subject. It's time for healing. I don't need to have a relationship with my mother and father in order to be a loving successful person happily married. I will study hard on the fundamentals of a healthy relationship and work my fanny off.

I will point out the flaws I am too well at fallign back on and figuring out what I should/have done before.

1 comment:

Arcadian said...

I would like to have a platonic relationship with you. This way we can encourage one another, because down deep we all need validation. We both enjoy sharing thoughts and feelings, so it should work out nicely.