women are hurt by the lies men give. Men lie in order to prevent hurting women. Women feel if men were truthful in the first place this would never happen. Men are indecisive to the last minute. It takes a lot for them to live with their decisions by being true to themselves and others. How does this cycle stop?
Each person in this relationship can only see their pain and struggle. When do we stop obsessing over our own problems to try and empathize and understand what our partners go through. It doesn't have to be a war.